I’m not sure how it happened, but somewhere along the way I never picked up the “how you’re supposed to be a friend,” lesson. This has led to me alienating (mostly by accident) people who have tried to befriend me over the years. None of this comes very naturally to me.
Despite my disfunction, there have been some men along the way who’ve stuck it out with me and friended me very well. When I’m around them, I’m better. Here are 5 ways they friend me that really stick out.
- Friends Communicate
They operate the phone. Not just satisfied with emails and the odd Facebook hi-five, they call me, and we connect. Friends communicate, they don’t wait to be communicated to.
- Friends Encourage
When I’m around my friends for an extended period of time, I feel stronger — braver. I think that’s what encouragement really means — to be filled with courage.
- Friends Pray
My friends pray for me. Good friends do that, regularly.
- Friends Play
I can be the fuddiest of all duddies, and my friends get that. So, they drag me out of my study and my “seriously-guys-I’m-an-adult-doing-adult-things” attitude and make me have fun.
- Friends Build
My closest friends are the guys I’ve built something with. Whether its a company, a church, or a project, friends lock arms and accomplish things bigger than themselves.
So, I’m learning from my friends how to friend well. This is what I’ve got so far. Did I miss anything?5